One of my favourite topics is talking about fears and how they dominate and often rule our lives. And in an exercise I did recently in a group it turned out that, ultimately, literally everything in life that relates to more or less negative emotions boils down to one emotion and that is fear. That is the dominant emotion that drives a lot of what we do or don’t do in life, I might even say most of it.
There is an unlived hidden life within us. A life we dream about, a life we fantasise about but a life we hardly ever achieve – not even remotely. Why?
Because we have the need to remain safe and secure which lets us stay in our comfort zone. the place we know best, the place we can control and retrieve to and we have established as out circle of action. The fears are the walls of that comfort zone and it is absolutely up to us how high that wall is and how hard it is to demolish.
Face your fears and get outside of your comfort zone. Life begins outside of your comfort zone. Everything you ever want to be, have or achieve is only going to be found by getting on the other side of fear, on the other side of your wall, out of your comfort zone.
Resist the pull of the comfort zone, cut the ties – let your life and light shine bright. Conquer fear and its mental resistance. Fear is unworthy of your companionship, it is an unwanted visitor who has overstayed his welcome and it is time to kick it in the butt.
Everything you want is on the other side of fear. Ask yourself:
What is the cost of fear? What are the consequences of keeping your dreams on hold?
- Diminished self worth
- You become a prisoner in the comfort zone. Adapting to your comfort zone creates habits of thinking and acting that become dysfunctional and debilitating. You choose to encarcerate rather than liberate your talents, skills, dreams and hopes.
- You perpetuate pain when you avoid a challenge which leads to disappointment and a feeling of failure.
- Character assassination. Your life will be seen as the sad consequence of neglect, excuse-making, self-pity and poor character, lack of direction and a courage deficit.
- Development of a quitter reputation
- Little to no impact on the world you leave behind
- Limited earning ability
- You become a traitor to a chance for a better life
Decide what is bigger and brighter than the fear you feel. What fears do you need to overcome? And what might be on the other side of that fear?
On the other side of fear is happiness, love, courage, confidence, strength, security – all of your hopes, dreams, and goals. It’s never too late to do anything you want.
The rewards for overcoming your fear are profoundly abundant and important.
Now, remember a time when you overcame a fear and did what you wanted to do. How did you feel about that? How did you feel about the reward you got, the goal you achieved, the stretch you experienced? When you have done it once you can do it again, and again, and again. Every new fear is just like the first one you overcame. So go on